Differences generate a spark, the nature of which changes with time, along with the changes we undergo as individuals. This spark may prove to be inspiring or frightening, demanding or easy-going, liberating or inhibiting, constructive or destructive and many more. The challenge we select (partner we like) is up to us and we need to be truthful in our choice.  How we work through the differences is also up to us. Both determine the intensity of the spark but also the quality and the duration of the energy created. We need to keep our differences – in a healthy way – in order to keep the challenge inspiring. Differences are maintained when both partners retain their individuality; the challenge, along with the spark that follows, also remains when both parties continue to grow.

It is important that your interaction brings about a spark; that there is energy. If not, its like you are talking to yourself, listening to yourself, being with yourself – in fact it is like being alone. This happens when only one of you is developing and the other “silently” follows, or when neither of you is developing and you are both coexisting in “silence”. Perhaps you don’t like challenges at all because they may come with unpleasant surprises. However, in all of these cases the spark is weak and becomes weaker with time. Only if you embrace the challenges and allow for constructive “friction” between each others’ sparks, can you energize your love and keep moving forward; both developing and growing.